Now I am applying Byron Katie’s inquiry process to my thoughts about the dog (we have not abandoned training or expert help). For example, “Finn shouldn’t still be so reactive toward other dogs.” Is this true? Can I absolutely know it’s true? Of course not. The fact that I wish he’d settle down doesn’t make it so.
How do I feel when I think the thought, “Finn should be over this by now”? The usual: discouraged.
Is there a stress free reason to hang onto the thought? No. There isn’t.
Turn it around: Finn shouldn’t be over this. Finn is doing exactly what he’s supposed to be doing. What if it’s his job to be the way he is? Or, by the way, for my sister to be the way she is?