Now I am applying Byron Katie’s inquiry process to my thoughts about the dog (we have not abandoned training or expert help). For example, “Finn shouldn’t still be so reactive toward other dogs.” Is this true? Can I absolutely know it’s true? Of course not. The fact that I wish he’d settle down doesn’t make it so.
How do I feel when I think the thought, “Finn should be over this by now”? The usual: discouraged.
Is there a stress free reason to hang onto the thought? No. There isn’t.
Turn it around: Finn shouldn’t be over this. Finn is doing exactly what he’s supposed to be doing. What if it’s his job to be the way he is? Or, by the way, for my sister to be the way she is?
Good thoughts here Dee. Something to consider. Thanks for the intro to Byron Katie, I’d not known of her.
I love her process because 1) it’s free 2) it’s very accessible 3) it works 4) it’s a thinking process, which suits an Aquarian — and that also means it can be done while driving, waiting in grocery line, etc. (sometimes writing it down matters for me, though) 5) its effects are cumulative and 6) like many healing processes, you don’t have to believe it will work for it to work.
Her story is pretty inspiring. She has a good website.
love that last photo Dee!
Ha! Taken while still half asleep. One of Finn’s ‘patrol vantages’….
My dog is more reactive to dogs than I would like as well…something he did not start until he was about 3. Something I just manage the best I can and work with as much as possible….bc they are who they are 🙂
Thanks for your comment. I am getting to that place of acceptance too. I sure hope it doesn’t get any worse when Finn turns three, though!